We made a lot of mistakes when we were younger. Getting married wasn’t one of them.

Marrying Young: Everyone Has An Opinion

The average couple marries in their upper-20s (27.5 for women, 29.5 for men). When we got engaged at 21, and married at 22, there were choruses of “You’re too young to get married!”

People all around us asked (some subtly, some not), “Are you sure?”

That question, in particular, is funny to me.

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Yes, we were sure—at the time—but as it turns out, we didn’t know squat! For the most part, no one getting married does. Marrying young or marrying old, no one really knows what they’re getting into.

It’s impossible to understand what it will be like to be married to someone else, to have your entire lives joined together, until you’ve done it.

Sure, you can hear the advice, you can read the books, and you can do your best to prepare. But until you’ve argued endlessly over something completely ridiculous and stared at the face of someone you would probably rather slap than kiss—well, let’s just say that experience is the best teacher.

Marriage isn’t just love. Lots of people fall in love. Marriage is commitment.

When things were rocky, we were tempted to think, “What have we done? We were too young to get married. This was a mistake.”

But it wasn’t a mistake. It was growing pains.

Being the first in your group to get married has its challenges. You’re forging ahead into uncharted waters. Aside from your own parents, there aren’t a lot of places to look for examples or advice.

If you marry young, you’re attempting to play house while your friends are still out on the town every night. You’re having your babies when your friends are finally getting engaged. You’re navigating the “middle years” of marriage while your friends are honeymooning in exciting places.

But there’s also some really awesome things that come with marrying young.

You don’t worry about the other person’s past because their past, for the most part, is you.

You don’t worry about who makes what when it comes to finances, because you made all your money and purchases together.

You don’t have to work too hard to build a common history because you spent some of your best, formative years together. Before long, there will be very few memories you don’t share.

There’s no “right” age for getting married. Some people find their perfect match at 20. For others, it’s 30, 40, 50–or maybe not at all.

We made a lot of mistakes when we were 22. We stayed out too late. We drank too much. We didn’t put as much money into our 401Ks as we should have.

But getting married?

That was a great call.

Did you marry young? Let me know in the comments. If you know someone who married young or is planning on marrying young, share this with them for a little encouragement.


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